
As much as we conceal and cover up, women long to be uncovered, discovered, and known. As much as we run and hide, we have a deeper longing to be found. Every woman on the face of the earth wants to be pursued and embraced passionately. What an incredibly strong longing! This is the one that drives us to romantic movies, romantic novels, but lets face it, these stir up our longings but they don't come anywhere close to meeting them. I mean half of the time they are written by women! No one knows how to identify a woman's longing like another woman. Women can create men who will speak our language and meet every need. But these men don't exist. That's not saying there aren't wonderful godly men out there, there are and I'm married to one, but they are still going to fall short from fantasy. Even the Godliest men fall short I'm willing to bet that Billy Graham could not meet his wife's every need. So I feel we are set up by those romance writers. They cast men in a role only God can fill, and it's no wonder I see many women walk away disappointed in their husbands. So unless you can get your husband to live out a romance novel, or only speak to you romantic movie quotes then you are plum out of luck. There are places in you that your relationship can't touch. If you're a woman, this is the case. You're going to have to face to some degree your unmet longing to be known. I am married to a amazing man. I am convinced that he is who God intended just for me, and I love him beyond words could express, but I also still have this longing that he can not fulfill and never will. Because no matter how much he knows me, there is still more to know, more to embrace. So the yearning continues and it calls me to look upward. To the only One who can satisfy my longing and desire to be wanted, loved, needed, known more intimately then a man could ever do. So I ask you to do the same thing...escape from life in a romantic movie or novel is fine once in a while but do you run to it? Do you wish you lived in that fantasy world? Instead of running to your fantasy run to the one who knows you and can fulfill that need for fantasy, that longing that you have, because God placed that need that longing in you but He designed it for Him to be the one to "complete you".
I understand this post probably more than any other you have ever posted. I'm not by any means, a romantic sorta gal. But, I do believe we women are naturally born with this desire for intimacy and affection. And, with the worlds stresses, personal struggles, ect.. these are impossible to always fill. That's why I'm convinced the tv is such an easy tool of escapism for women. And, I love that you emphasized our relationship with Jesus has to be the tool of escapism. With women, the thought life is the devils most dangerous ploy. We are fantasaical sort of creatures, and I truly believe if we do not "take captive every thought", it will only drive us further away from our one true lover, Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
I am living proof of a woman who has allowed God to become her intimate partner. He has to be your everything - Lord, Father, Friend, Comforter, Companion, Confidant - your EVERYTHING.
ReplyDeleteHe is the only one who knows us inside and out because he intricately created our very being. He fashioned us, therefore who knows how to clothe us with ALL we need.
Putting pressure on any human - husband, friend, child, parent, pastor,etc. is wrong and unfair.
GOOD WORD, Mel! <3